Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Getting back on track

Every time I have tried writing my experiences, major changes in life happen and writing becomes history.
So 2015 was one of those years where I had major drastic changes in my life and I have currently bounced back to a body I had 10 yr back.
No excuses, but these changes in my life left me with no time to exercise, or cook and my motivation was 0 because these changes have been hard and one of the biggest challenge was to embrace them. Habits that I had cultivated from a decade just vanished for few months and here I am, beginning my journey all over again.

O Well, I thought writing down my journey again from beginning would be cool, and writing would force me to commit to better choices. After moving twice this yr, we are finally in our home and while unpacking, i realized how much i neglected myself all these months. I reintroduced white carbs and sugar back in my body past few months and overate almost every time. So on 26 oct I decided to get back on track.Its Day 9 today and I am on track. What am I doing ?

I am in all praises for Whole 30 which seems to be in thing these days. I usually do a whole 30 when I want to refocus my eating habits.
I remember first time I did it, it was pretty painful to be grain free and dairy free. Even though its 30 days, i remember 25 of those was a real torture but i managed to push myself and by day 30 I felt really good, totally worth the struggle.

I am avoiding writing about whole 30 here since there is a ton of information on the web about it. I am on Day 9 currently of whole 30. I noticed this time it was not a torture to give up white carbs and slipped into it just as if I had never quit. I have no cravings, I am cooking with enthusiasm even though I am tired like crazy. Trying new recipes is one of my hobbies, and I have found some good recipe's which I would stick to on regular basis.

Since its fall, its season for soups and stews:

You will find the recipe to the curried cream of broccoli soup here :

I also tried substituting Cauliflower instead, which was equally good.

I will try to write here, how I feel while on whole 30, new recipes that I try and like and overall experience getting back to healthier me.

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

Getting started with changing eating habits permanently

With so much information out there on losing weight and so many sources that point to different diets it might often be confusing for a person to begin changing their eating habits because its information overload. Totally. Dieting is what I consider the beginning of a healthy life style and it is more about restricting your calories and choosing better nutrition foods. Living a healthy life style is more about adopting this diet forever and this diet is unique to every individual even though there are some basic points common to everyone. During the “Dieting phase” we choose to eat better with aim of lsing weight, and in process learn to find foods that work for us and in what quantity. It’s relatively easy even though it needs tremendous determination and effort in the beginning. What is harder is living with it for entire life without feeling deprived. Yes, this “feeling deprived” is what makes people want to get back to bad eating habits.
We have so many questions when we are new to all this - Should I eliminate carbs or fats? Should I just limit my overall calories and eat whatever I like as long as calorie limit is not exceeded? Should I go on this crash diet so I lose 10 pounds in 10 days and then I will maintain my loss? Should I add nut butters to my diet? Will eating negative calorie foods really reduce my weight? What we don’t anticipate is gaining all this weight back if we don’t make this diet permanent. So it is important we don’t rush to lose weight, and gradually slip into a life where this new diet is a part of our life permanently just like brushing our teeth or taking shower is. We need to understand this is the way you should be eating by default, and any other food groups are occasional treats.

Today I would like to share what I changed in my diet that has made a positive impact on my health and life as well. You may have a different opinion and choose a different alternative and you should do what works for you and what makes this journey easy and enjoyable for you. If you feel that something you are doing is not working out for you and you have to work extremely hard for it, the chances are you will give up doing it eventually. I have tried numerous diets over past few years and I could stick to none for more than the duration of dropping the weight, only to put it back again. I could not accept that what I do, to lose weight, has to be permanent and what worked for me is “Eating Clean” rather than doing diets though I did start with counting calories in the beginning. I have learnt to choose better sources of food with superior nutritional content in my calorie limit. For example instead of having a donut or frozen yogurt for 250 calories I would opt for fruit bowl and Greek yogurt topped with few nuts for same amount of calories. I will try to consolidate my eating habits here and how I work on incorporating them in my daily life below.

1. Negative calorie foods:
Many resources say “Negative calorie food” helps with weight loss like incorporating half a grape fruit in breakfast for example. Per my experience they dint really make a significant change in my weight. The only advantage was I was eating healthier. I do not believe eating anything can help you lose weight if you continue to eat the way you do now and losing weight is your goal. So if you eat “not so good” food and add negative calorie food to your diet, don’t expect anything to change. I incorporate a lot of negative calorie food in my diet frequently like incorporating more salads (minus sugary dressings), snacking on vegetables (cucumber celery sticks with peanut butter), consuming Citrus fruits like oranges , grape fruit etc more than tropical fruits like mangos and bananas, adding sides of non-starchy vegetables in meals like Broccoli, Beans, Zucchini. This makes me feel full, though total calories from these are not as much as I can get from bread or rice.
2. Being Gluten free:
Being an Indian by birth, “Wheat” has been a major source of my diet growing up and I could not imagine any meal that did not contain wheat. But somewhere inside I wanted to try not eating wheat after reading about being “Gluten Free”. I have switched my carbohydrate sources to grains like Quinoa and brown rice and vegetables like winter squashes and sweet potatoes instead of consuming wheat. For me this experiment has given me an opportunity to explore other things I can eat today. Result is I have no regrets about not consuming wheat every single day, I feel lighter. Thanks for specialty stores like Whole Foods and Trader Joes where I can get things like buck wheat, brown rice, quinoa, and noodles & pastas made from these. I have felt the best that I had ever in my entire life not eating wheat, that I grew up on. It is definitely not right for me even though it is whole grain. This includes foods like semolina (rava) & cracked wheat (daliya). May be they work for you, you will need to experiment. So may be try being “Wheat free” for a month and see how you feel and decide. May be read up on being gluten free and probably you will have a list of foods to avoid.
3. Being processed sugar free
Another hardest thing to leave was sugar (anything that contained White, Brown, Raw, Cane, Agave, Honey etc. including my favorite cocktails). I was totally under impression that I could eat brown sugar or raw sugar and Agave/ Honey was not even sugar source for me. But on researching more I found out all of these are sources of sugar. I started giving up on sweets (no matter what the occasion was) & tea/coffee which had flavored syrups. Over time, I think being disciplined about it has made me independent of cravings from sugar but I do indulge in a couple of bites if I feel like it. A banana with peanut butter has been my favorite pre workout snack which satisfies my sweet tooth. Or any fruit for that matter. Avoiding sugar made a huge impact in how I felt and the scale finally moved to the left after a couple of months just by eliminating sugar. It is challenging to lead a low sugar life. It takes effort in researching brands that serve your purpose and reading labels before you put it in your basket. I do occasionally indulge in deserts and enjoy sipping red wine & nibbling on favorite chocolates but only if I feel like it, not because of any event or proximity of food. I buy products that do not have any added sugar (at least try to) mostly salad dressings, even if it means paying a little more.

These 3 categories of food have been hindering my “feel good” phase forever. I am actually surprised at how much of these 3 foods are consumed by so many people who are trying to lose weight and probably don’t know how much a difference leaving these can make. Many times we consume a lot of products thinking they are good because they are advertised so. So learn to read labels and don’t trust the advertisement so much.
The idea here is taking baby steps and experimenting in finding out what works for you, not just in terms of food, but also activity wise, lifestyle wise and determining a schedule that you can stick to for your whole life. Some people have issues with raw food, some with wheat or may be dairy or nuts and some don’t with any of these. Some like to go to gym and some may prefer swimming. Find out what you like to eat and what you enjoy so it is easier to accept this change as a part of your life, and not a burden.

Learn to not associate “Enjoyment” with food 100%. Food is a thing to be enjoyed for sure, but learn to not let go off 100% and gulp down the food loaded with oil & sugar. Take a smaller serving size and enjoy each bite, feel the taste and eat slowly. This way, you will be satisfied with smaller portion than just gulping down big portions. When I go for parties and social events, I love to meet people, talk and socialize. That’s my source of enjoyment for most part and food may be some part. I may not enjoy the samosas n fritters necessarily. But if I do feel like eating a piece of desert, I will have some, typically a smaller portion than what I did few years back. Often others feel I am “sacrificing good food”, but I am not. I just don’t crave these kinds of food anymore because I am addicted to feeling good. Oily, sweet food in excess portions makes me feel like sick, so why would I do that to myself, I ask. If you begin to eat clean, you may have lesser cravings over time because your body is getting nutrition it needs. It is just the initial phase when you stop eating these, is hard and challenging. But it’s worth a try to accept this challenge because if you win, the quality of your life will be so much superior to now.

If you are starting to live better life I would highly encourage you to start following simple things like:
1. Reducing sugar intake to as minimal as you can. (All kinds of syrups, honey, and high fructose corn syrup etc.)
2. Give up food made of white flour or Maida and deep fried food for most part. Not buying these foods at all, because if you don’t have them in your kitchen, you won’t eat them.
3. Aiming to consuming at least 5 cups of veg / fruit every day. The more, the better. Each meal that you eat should have a fruit or veg in it.
4. Investing in quality produce & supplements because it’s an investment in health.
5. Being moderately active 30 min / day and choosing an activity you will enjoy.
6. Understanding and accepting that what you are giving up is not really “Good food”, but the new substitutions you are making is what is good for your body.
7. Telling yourself it takes effort to do it, and that you are willing to take the effort to make your life better. Join a support group if you want.
8. Knowing that eating better doesn’t mean “Boring tasteless” food and starving. It just means substituting ingredients to those which provide nutrition to your body.
9. Trying to do better today than yesterday and loving it. Knowing that when you reach your goal you will be able to enjoy all kinds of food in moderation, but when you are on a mission you can’t afford that. So have patience and be sincere. You are on right path, and each day you are getting closer to your goal.

Be Happy, Eat healthy, Feel better, Live good. You are making a right choice.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Dealing with Frustration and disappointments during weightloss

Often talking to my peeps, I have noticed how sad one can get when we don’t see results after working hard to be fit. We keep going and pushing ourself, struggling through diet n workout and yet no outcome!!! Sure, it is disheartening. We start to think "I want to give up” Or "Its not worth it". We feel we have worked too hard, too long to get minimal outcome. We want to see the change in a month or may be over night. Involuntarily comparisons start and we get into a vicious cycle of negativity that losing weight is not possible, or I cannot stay away from my favorite food any more (Junk food). What should one do then? When temptations start to creep and determination starts to go down hill? Wish we had a magic wand.

My observation through out my struggle is when you don’t see results, most of the time you are doing something wrong. Knowing that, now next thing is finding out what is wrong, and fixing it. Remember that this is your journey, and none else’s. So if you cheat, you cheat yourself, if you are sincere you see the result. Hard work is never wasted.

Some points to ponder over:

Know that stopping the process of following a healthy life style out of frustration is not going to get you where you want to go. If you don’t see any outcome, you need to keep going without having a deadline, trying better each day. Planing how can i make it better today than yesterday, evryday. Each morning is a new beginning. So don’t beat yourself up if you ate wrong yesterday. Start fresh today, and if possible make up for yesterday by either eating little lower calorie diet than normal n working out slightly more. After all this is a life style change, not a temporary solution. If you get frustrated with it, how will you continue this for entire life? At least you know continuing is not going to do any harm, but stopping will make it worse. Dont go crazy n starve. Just modify diet to have fewer calories. For eaxmple I could workout and burn 300 calories and eat 200 cal less to negate my 500 cal intake yesterday. Or I may just burn 100 cal more at gym this entire week.

Know that you did not gain weight overnight, so you are not going to lose it overnight. Any attempt to do so will be followed by frustration and disappointment. So be ready for it if you try to do anything that claims to lose weight with minimal effort and quick. There is no “quick”, there is no “easy”. There is only slow and steady.

Know that there is no short cut to good health. You have to earn it. You have to work hard for it. It may take as long as multiple yrs or more or as short as few weeks depending on your goal, effort and consistency. I stress my 3P here. Patience, Persistence and Positivity. Even bigger challenge is maintaining your loss, so if you don’t accept it as lifestyle change be ready to see the gain again.

Know that no 2 individuals are the same. Their bodies are different, their life style is different, their desire to achieve better health is different and their needs to feel better are different. Someone can be extremely happy with a loss of 10 pounds while someone may think I have just lost 10 pounds, I have so much more to go. Either way, recognize your need and do your best to fulfill it. Do not compare yourself to anyone else on this planet. You are an individual and you need to believe that you will get what you want if you work for it. No one can unfortunately work for you in this scenario. So be prepared to work hard.

Know that if you think you are giving 100% and seeing no change from a long time, you are doing something wrong somewhere. Logging food and exercise helps a lot initially. So you can go back and look at your diary and see what you have eaten and what could have been avoided. Try better this week, and see if it helps. Change something, either diet wise or workout wise. See if it makes difference. Experiment. It helped me to log in my diary and I used MyFitnessPal. There are plenty out there, find out the one you like. Remember Lisa says Calories in should be less than calories out, and you will see it. (Love you Lisa Lyon for making it that simple. That’s the magic mantra). Simplest way to start is by eliminating certain foods from your diet completely. Say bye bye to sugar, white flour, high fat foods etc. Eat fruit/Veg with each meal. Learn to read labels and choose best things for your body. As far as possible avoid packaged processed food.

Find out what’s wrong- probably you are eating too late at night, or may be over eating healthy foods or unknowingly snacking and not making a note of it. Did a glass of wine turn into 2 or 3? How about the Sodas & smoothies & lattes & mochas? They are not calorie free remember that. Ohh! And what about eating one bite from each person’s ice cream bowl. I know you dint have one, but you still had a bit from each kids bowl. Don’t lie to yourself. You are doing it for you, not someone else. So do it with full heart else don’t bother coz you will be disappointed.

Know that each person you know has something he doesn’t like about himself, so you are not alone. Focus on what you like about yourself. Enhance what you can, fix what you don’t like. Just because you feel you don’t have something, don’t feel worthless. If something you don’t like cannot be fixed, accept it and keep telling yourself what is positive in you. It helps built confidence.

Accept yourself the way you are, work on yourself, give yourself credit for achievements and accept the new you. Don’t criticize yourself all the time, and see how far your journey has taken you. Be proud of your hard work and often pat your back for doing good job. Remind yourself to keep doing better every single day. Each drop counts. Set small goals, target it, achieve it.

To see results, consistency is the key. You cannot work hard whole week, and eat crap on each weekend, or you cannot reward yourself in terms of food because you worked out that day. You can reward yourself for doing a good job in other ways like getting a new workout outfit, or new pair of sneakers or may be something materialistic that you really wanted. A single lavish dinner can ruin a whole week worth of hard work. So be aware of this before you indulge. You dont have to dine out each weekend, Or try eating good and go for a dance in a club n burn it out. Take responsibility of what you eat to avoid disappointment. Before eating, think if eating that food is going to disappoint you tomorrow. If the answer is no, go ahead eat it. If answer is yes, then why are you doing it? Eating out does not have to be high calorie. In each restaurant I have been to, food is very much customizable and you can totally avoid what is bad. Go for grilled meat instead of fried, Cut out the chips & Salsa in starters and skip the desert.

This journey is not easy, not impossible either. Just takes a little effort and sincerity. You live once, and you deserve to feel your best in your life. And once you get there, it’s so amazing that you would never want to go back to where you came from. So have a goal, not in terms of weight loss particularly, but more on the lines of being active as much as possible and eating as better most of the times. Weight loss will happen when you don’t wait for it to happen, but do whats needed with full dedication. Eat clean, move, make motivated friends with similar interests, motivate others around you. Enjoy the process of the transformation, research on what others are doing, experiment & find what works for you.

Where there is a will there is a way. If there is not, you can make one. I have made amazing friends on myfitness pal. I have made life long relations in my gym. This journey has gifted me confidence, friends, hobbies, better health and tons of positivity which affect all angles of my life. I am glad I embarked on it long long ago, still going and hoping to recieve much more going forward.

Friday, May 23, 2014

Healthy v/s Skinny - My take on it

How do you define the so much talked about word “Healthy”? Does being healthy necessarily mean being skinny? Why is beauty most of the times tagged with Skinny bodies? Why does the media or society promote a culture where many girls feel the need to be like “VS” Models. Does healthy mean having a perfect or skinny body or is it a journey towards having a better quality of life, a better experience of your own existence. Do we understand the difference between these 2 words - Healthy and Skinny?

I don’t know why today I suddenly came up with this topic to think about. I think it’s a good one to discuss and put forth my thoughts on it because I am sure many people think they are the same, and so did I decade ago. Hopefully my words here trigger a different thinking in you. As a teenager I always thought and almost believed that healthy is skinny and you go to the gym to be skinny. When I was enrolled in a gym for the first time I totally did not understand how it will make me feel, or did I really wanted to do it, or would I enjoy it. It was initially a punishment I had to give to myself for social acceptance because I had seen people getting skinny when they joined the gym. Unwillingly, I joined, I worked out, I started eating betetr and as a teenager I lost over 40 pounds during my summer vacation. I felt amazing within. I was no way skinny even after losing 40 pounds, but my health & stamina had improved significantly, I felt better emotionally. There was a sence of social acceptance, but I dint care then on. Happily I fell in love with being “healthy” since then, what society think of me was none of my business. It was all about me. That is why multiple failures till date have not been a deterrent to me, to start all over even if I gain what I lose. But I never went back to where I started, ever.

Some questions i had then - Why are you always judged based on your size and looks? Why are overwieght people treated like aliens? Why do we keep staring in mirror criticizing extra bulges? Why dont I love myself? Why do I desire to be like someone else? Why is how we feel not important than how we look. Over years I got my answers.

Being skinny may not be necessarily mean that person is healthy. Health comes with wisdom of eating right n being active (probably I may get a little monotonous here). Trying to achieve good health should be the philosophy of life in general because its a enriching experience and for most people it can never end. There is always scope to do better. Health will come when you follow this; accept this from your heart. Realization is the first step to achieve what you want, and rest will fall in place. As I continued my journey towards finding the right answer over years I have finally reached a point where the significance of the mirror has gone down significantly, and has leveraged the thought of how I feel about myself. I feel great; I have been feeling great from over a few years now and it’s getting better. Full of energy most of the times. So much positivity emotionally. Isn’t overall health related to your body and emotions as well? It’s equally important to feel good about yourself, as looking good. Loving yourself counts. Beauty is not related to weight and some may disagree here. Though I do feel being fit or healthy (atleast trying to be there) does make u happier and reflects on your beauty, It’s like cherry on top of cake. Why does it make you happy? Because to me it is an sence of achievement. Confidence that comes from overcoming obstacles like physical hardships (workouts) and not falling in trap of junk addiction(good diet). I no longer have to practise self control, it comes naturally to me now. (There are moments when I fail, but I realise it in time now.)

I was asked once- Why do I work hard at gym it’s not giving any results visible to the world. I look pretty much the same since so many years, so what is the need to sweat it out so much. The reason is as simple as it can be. It’s because I feel good. It’s a very personal experience for me which guarantees pure satisfaction that the day was worth living. I did not even realize over years when being physical active turned into my hobby that I look forward to most days after work. After a just 30 min spin class I feel awesome. After an hour of relaxing yoga I feel totally in harmony with myself, calm n relaxed n happy. After a body fit class (kind of cross train) I feel on top of the world, a sense of achievement that I did better today than last time. After a Zumba class I feel like dancing to a couple more tunes even if I am tired physically. That is why I work out. It’s so important to love to be active and not do it because someone says so. It’s so important to understand physical movement should be a part of your routine just like eating, sleeping n brushing your teeth.
Why has the focus of something so natural gone to a level where we have to make special effort to be active and it seems so hard? I have seen numerous people at the gym who will be glued on the tread mill for over an hour walking as if someone is punishing them. If you are putting in 1 hour doing it even if thinking it is a punishment, why not get punished happily. I may sound a little silly here, but hey if you are doing it might as well be positive about it. Or Try a different form of punishment and it may turn out to be a reward.

If you don’t love to workout in a gym find a physical activity that you would love and enjoy and look forward to everyday. Try a new class, go hiking or biking or play with your dog in park. Go for a long walk or jog to the tunes of your favorite songs. It’s just a matter of finding something that you will enjoy from your heart. Don’t be scared to try what you feel like. Often I drag my friends in Zumba n most of them who don’t do it regularly are worried they won't be in sync. I reply "Who cares? Just have fun, make sure u feel good." Just try it once n learn to let go of fear that someone is watching. Enjoy an hour of music n dance n have a great workout. Is spin class too scary to try and I often jsut watch others do it? Just take the class a few times n try to enjoy the feeling of working out harder and pushing yourself to a level you thought you were not capable of reaching. Let the beats carry you away to a level where all u care is how amazing that sense of achievement is. Joy of overcoming not just physical but mental challenge as well and the confidene that you can do it will make u feel happy. Give a new idea a chance; you may end up liking it. Get over the thought of taking classes when u are in better shape. Just step in, and u will have a great workout. I am not a treadmill person n for years I forced myself to use those monotonous machines which bored me to the core. I almost did not want to go to the gym because it was so boring. Then I started exploring options and I am so glad I did. For me group fitness classes just kick the boredom n guarantees a feel good time with yourself. I discovered what I like because I tried it. I try to do different form of activity most days in a week depending on my schedule. You need to find out what will work for you.

Don’t work out aiming to see yourself thinner. Think healthier. Think better stamina. Think a disease free body. Health will come to you when you eat clean n workout (there I go again). Health will follow, you don’t even have to think about it. Understand that each hour of workout you are doing, is a favor to you mind and body. It’s a way to unwind and get good night’s sleep. Enjoy the experience of sweating. When you do it for enjoyment, you will not feel burdened to do it. In fact you will look forward to an hour of awesomeness. Don’t do it as a duty, do it as entertainment. Remember, your body is a temple, don’t abuse it by over eating and eating wrong constantly, It the only house where you reside. You cant buy a new one. If you don’t take care of it, it will fall apart, which can be a huge loss emotionally, financially and physically. Lot of people don’t appreciate good health until they lose it, why even get there. Weather skinny or not, everyone needs to take care of themselves. Everyone needs to be moderately active and eating good meals most of the times.

Learning to enjoy it, doing it does change your life for good. Try it!

Thursday, April 24, 2014

Eating Clean is not dieting, Its a way of life.

What is eating clean?

I have hard time understanding the statement that I hear so many times - “I am dieting”. I use it so many times myself and then bite my tongue because I have been trying to avoid its use. I have started to believe in eating right at all times with occasional indulgences if at all (if you are on a mission), ideally none. I slip often, but realize my fall sooner than later with years of experience. Shouldn’t we be eating right for the majority of time not just when we put on weight? So by default “dieting” should be the way of life, not just a temporary phase. This makes that word not so special, because that means we are eating good meals at all times. This is the way of life. Good way of life….

Trying to eat right or diet on temporary basis is like throwing water on all your efforts you took to have a better body during the temporary phase. Why do we want to return to old eating habits, if that is what has gotten you to a point which makes you go on a diet or which pushed you to think you need to lose weight? Why do we want to face frustration by trying to adopt temporary solutions. Frustration to such a level that we never want to adopt healthy eating habits again and we begin to accept our self the way we are – no matter what medical complications it can create. I would say we begin to accept ourself not whole heartedly because somewhere inside we are unhappy about the way we feel, but we dont want to change. Change is so hard, isnt it? We want wait to a point where the doctor tells us we need to lose weight; else we are going to have serious health issues. List of diseases due to obesity is endless. Why are we walking on a road towards that list? We want to believe that once we lose weight, no matter what we eat it should not creep in. Sadly, we are not in a dream land. Facing the truth, accepting bad habits need a change for your own good is the only way to be happy and healthy. There is absolutely no other way to be in good health at all times. If you don’t believe it, try and see and let me know if you find a short cut because I haven’t in 21 yrs. Some people are blessed with body that can process whatever they eat, some are not. So those who are not need to work towards it. In my experience its totally worth it. Yes, adopting good eating habits is hard. It is not impossible. All that is needed is you wanting to do it, help & motivation will follow.

What has eased my journey to be in good health is acceptance of this fact and working towards it without getting frustrated (occasionaly yes, but it improves over time as you start to work on it), eating responsibly (knowing consequences of eating junk, and prepared to compensate for it while enjoying at that moment), and managing my indulgences ASAP. After all a stitch in time saves nine. Why wait till clothes no longer fit us, or we no longer can walk a mile without panting , or run around with kids, or till the doctor says so? Why do we wait forever till there is no option. It just makes it harder with time. Why do we not want to act in time? Are we waiting for an auspicious occasion to start accepting that we need to eat better? The moment you decide and accept is in itself auspicious, because it is starting your journey to a more enjoyable life full of energy, enthusiasm and positivity. Having goals and accomplishing them makes you feel good about yourself while you reap the benefits of eating better.

I have tried all kinds of diets in these years and yes I have had results each time but I could not stick to any one because it made me feel deprived of sugar (not just processed sugar in deserts but all processed food in general). I needed my varierty of Breads and Rice and my chocolate (still my sweetheart). Life seemed to be too hard without these goodies. And portion control did not exist. Eat till your body says “Stop, I am stuffed.” but I would still put the last bite in my mouth because.... hey you can’t waste food. That’s what we are taught –to not waste. Why did I help myslef to a bigger serving ? Did I need that kind of food and in that quantity? Heck NO…...My body did not need it, my mind did. It’s all mind games people, don’t listen to it. Its Evil when it comes to comfort food. Learn to listen to your body. Learn to listen if you are hungry or thirsty. You need nutritious food and water, not vending machine goodies and Soda.

I think it’s the matter of discipline to overcome this barrier of “needing certain foods”. We want an convenient excuse to eat what we desire which is not necessarily needed. We are lying to our self that we need it (we call it craving), we are cheating ourself. Our body does not need chips and soda and cookies every single day, it needs nutrition. Nutrition from Fruits, Veggies, Whole grains, good lean protein, water and tons of water. It needs enough to function and get you through your day feeling energetic, satisfied and not lethargic.

So my friends, no more dieting, it will always be eating right at all times. Don’t feel deprived, because occasional indulgences are okay, we are humans after all. Mind is going to wander intermittently.Besides in todays world enjoyment and food are siblings. There is no celebration without food that I call wrong. But its us who decide the occasion and its frequency. If Occasion is every other day, then ask yourself if its right or wrong, and you will have the answer, weather you accept it or not. Doesn’t help to lie to yourself. Never will.

Eat Clean. Be honest to yourself. Work Hard. Dont give up. You will get what you desire if you do so. Dont just dream, make things happen.

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Being ready to change yourself for better .....

Weightloss is a very hot topic, especialy in todays age where we are glued to our chair for 8+ hours daily. Sure everyone wishes to have a perfect body (definition of "perfect" is personal), but there is a huge difference in just wishing magic would happen one day and really being ready for the change, Rolling up sleeves and saying “I am ready to work on it”.

When someone says “I Wish”, I question it in my mind, “Then why don’t you?”… (Just in my mind because not all are ready to work for it.Dont want to be rude because people can be really sensitive and probably they are not even ready for the chaneg yet, which is perfectly fine. It is a personal choice after all).I now get surprised with people comming with so many excuses to not doing it rather than finding 1 good reason to do it. Why are we so lazy (thats what I feel)?

Below are a few common chats I have been into with family, friends and in general people who I know. Into parenthesis is what I think then.
  • “I got a tub of ice-cream from Costco for my kids; they won’t eat it so I have to finish it now”. (Ahhhhh…No you don’t….is it worth eating that much of ice-cream loaded with sugar n cream to save 10-15$? Rather why get it home if you cant keep your hands off it? Go out and enjoy a scoop instead)
  • I went for a party and my friend made this desert, she forced me to eat it. (Really? You can be forced to eat? You can’t say No? Or you can’t eat just a little to keep the friend happy? You had to eat the whole bowl? )
  • I made this Pizza for my kids; only 1 slice was remaining, so I finished it. (Nothing wrong with eating a slice of Pizza, but eating it to finish it…that’s what I call wrong choice. Especially when it tops your dinner.)
  • I have been working long hours. (Sure- I respect that. We all do at times. But can’t we prioritize our health and spare 30 min out of 24 hours, 4 times a week, is that too hard? It could be hard, but have you tried harder? May be you can squeeze in that time if you want.)

And the excuse list can go on.

I just feel like mentioning here that starting to have a good life style and better eating habits is not an exam or race that you need to top. It’s an experience that you want to have purely by choice because you seek better quality of life. Be responsible for your choices instead of blaming it on friends and kids and everything around you, but you. Only you and you choose to eat what you do, so why not be responsible for it. Accept that you need to change because you made poor choices and not how circumstances forced you to make poor choices for the length of the time you did. After all that is why you feel the need to change, dont you?Sometimes sure you need to adjust, but when sometimes becomes every time, that is when you need to catch yourself and say, “Not this time”.

Is it that important to you to give in each time you crave something? Can’t you give up some time and say “No” because I have a goal?

Do you think before you eat, or do you just eat because you smell it or its in front of you?

Most importantly, Is it worth it?

I have lost pounds and inches numerous times, probably more than 100 pounds till now and the reason for it to be multiple times is that I had poor lifestyle and it was extremely challenging to get on a better regime without failing. I have failed and learned from it and tried again and failed again, but every time I failed, I was nearer to my goal. Isn’t life all about failing and learning anyways? This summer I am completing 21 yrs. of my constant battle against obesity and I sure have come a long way. I have found friends online for encouragement, I have invested in training with trainers, in buying good food, Spend hours in researching and trying out what suits me, how can it be easier so I can stick to it forever and more. It was well worth it because now I feel much more better about myself, I am energetic and positive than before. Eating good and being moderately active is encouraged not only so one can lose weight, but also because it improves your mood and quality of life like nothing else. It’s the BEST thing you can do for yourself. 
One of major influences in my life has been my trainer Lisa who has tons of motivation and I love her for that. She says it’s simple To lose weight calories in should be less than calories out ....yes friends, it indeed is that simple.
Not everyone can afford to invest in trainer or gym membership but you dont need one to be active. 
All it takes is “Being ready for the change, Being ready to a new YOU”. You will know a way out and what works for you when you are ready from your heart. After all where there is a will there is a way. Feeling lucky to be born in the age os technology....Google will find the way for you. You just need to ask.